Whites Were Minorities At My Church Sunday

I’m a white pastor. As I spent years in undergrad and graduate school preparing to be a pastor, I generally had the mindset of a typical white middle-class male. I grew up in a wonderful white middle-class church and always assumed I would serve in a church similar to my upbringing.
I usually ignored discussions and learning opportunities in school about multicultural ministry. I (thought I) recognized how important those issues were. But I didn’t think they applied to my future context. I assumed I’d serve at a church where most everybody looked like me. I’d be a pastor who welcomed everyone, but I wouldn’t actively seek to pastor a multicultural church.

Then…Jesus called me to pastor a historically white church in, what is now, a very diverse community.

For 3 years, I’ve been praying our Sunday morning services would “look” as diverse as our community. I’ve never had an agenda to become a multicultural/multiethnic church. My agenda was that we look like our community, which happens to be multicultural/multiethnic.

I’ve made decisions as a pastor that would actively push us towards greater diversity, including: 1) deciding against selling our our building to find a new location and 2) moving my family into the neighborhood.

When I noticed our white members weren’t interacting as much as I hoped with our non-white guests, I brought in round tables and forced people to sit across from each other during service. One Sunday each month, we do nothing but eat breakfast together. I creatively called this breakfast time on Sunday “Breakfast Sunday.” We’re a diverse bunch, but not the most creative. Creative types, come join us!

When I noticed our veteran members couldn’t remember the names of our newer members, I started inviting people to speak up with prayer requests, praises, answers to questions during sermons, etc. Each time I call on a person to share, I say their name. When they finish speaking, I thank them and say their name again.

I regularly talk about race. I keep reminding our people I don’t have plans on leaving.

I’m fighting hard to create a sense of community in our increasingly diverse church. Some people don’t care for the tables. Some feel uncomfortable when I say I plan on being here 20 years. Some don’t care for the breakfasts, and a pastor who can’t say anyone’s name just once. But these things seem to be working.

*Note: I believe God gave me all these ideas, which could be why they are working for us. They might be awful ideas for your church if Jesus doesn’t lead you to do them. *

The journey to change has been long and, at times, painful. For some people, the changes were more than they could bear. It often felt like more than my wife and I could bear. I praise God for good Christian counseling. Several people recommended I quit. I turned down two other ministry positions and refused to put out my resume to other churches.

I wasn’t trying to be a martyr. I just believed I was exactly where God wanted me. I thought it would be a sin for me to leave. I still believe that. In fact, I think God wants me to stay here for at least another 20 years. We’ll see if I heard him correctly regarding the timeline.

Last Sunday, we hit a milestone that’s been 3 years in the making…whites were a minority at church last Sunday. Ok, it was only by 1. But still, they were a minority. More non-white people attended our worship service than white people.

The children attending our church’s summer day camp and the volunteer teens running it with me are almost 100% non-white — predominantly African-American.

Our congregation now shares our building with two Black churches and one Korean church. A funeral home, owned by a Latino man, now resides within one corner of our church building. Mr. Garcia provides funeral services to everyone, regardless of their ability to pay. This has become a valuable resource to poor families in our community.

My wife, our son, and I live in the house on our church property (called a “Parsonage”). Almost every single neighbor on our street is African-American. A family from Kenya just moved into the tri-plex across the street.

Well-meaning people told me to buy a gun before moving in. I did not. Instead, I almost cleaned out our savings to renovate and furnish the Parsonage. I was happy to show our church and our community we weren’t going anywhere. We’re committed to this church and to this neighborhood. And we’re not afraid to live here. Besides, why would I be afraid to live on the same street with fellow church members and people I call friends?

Many of our neighbors live in Section 8 duplexes and/or receive housing vouchers.  Although God has provided above and beyond what we need, we, too, have learned the unique challenges of being on government assistance in our country.

As I walked the dog this morning at the park by our church, I passed other walkers who were either Black or from India. I’ve even been working with two others on a plan to use our church building as the location for an Indian church. The first Spanish-speaking church we planted now meets 25 minutes away. We’ve been praying for the last 3 months how we can, once again, serve our Spanish-speaking neighbors.

For me, following Jesus led us to a place I never would have imagined, trying my best to serve people who have experienced things I will never understand. Jesus usually leads us to places we wouldn’t pick for ourselves.

I don’t know how to solve the racial, poverty, and immigration issues in our country. But I do know that following Jesus down this path, where I live among and serve people who don’t look like me, has changed me for the better.

“Trust and obey,

For there’s no other way

To be happy in Jesus,

But to trust and obey.”

8 Possible Reasons You’re Not Hearing God- No Hondas, Reason #5

Stuck in traffic jam

Do you know Jesus’ disciples drove a Honda? The old King James Bible says they “all continued with one accord in prayer and supplication” (Acts 1:14).

Thank you. I’ll be here all week.

Afraid Honda would sue them for trademark infringement, modern Bible translators changed the words to “They all joined together constantly in prayer.”

Don’t google that. It was a joke.  They changed it because we’re not living in 1600s England.

But while today’s English translators made the words in this passage more modern, they may not have helped us understand Luke’s intent here. When most of us read new translations’ phrase “all joined together,” we picture disciples meeting together in the same geographic spot (e.g. the Upper Room). They did gather together in the same location, but Luke seems just as concerned to stress the disciples were of the same mind. In fact, the Greek word homothumadon in Luke 1:14 translated today as “all joined together” literally means “with one mind, with one accord, with one passion.”

Actually, Luke seems really concerned to stress the disciples were “with one accord.” Of the 12 times homothumadon occurs in the Greek New Testament, Luke uses the word 10 times. He REALLY wants you to understand this group of bickering, selfish, throw-each-other-under-the-bus men is now a group united in the same purpose. Gone are the days when James and John use mommy to get ahead of all the other disciples. Peter no longer assumes the other disciples might desert Jesus, but not him. The group no longer argues about who is the greatest.

In Acts 1:14 Luke wants us to understand the disciples were now all in agreement as they prayed.

But what were the disciples praying for?

I’m not certain, but I have a good guess…

Shortly before Jesus ascended into heaven, he told the disciples to “wait in Jerusalem for the gift my father promised” and went on to elaborate the disciples would “be baptized with the Holy Spirit”  (Acts 1:4-5). If Jesus tells you to wait for a gift he’s promised you, what would you be praying? I’d pray “Hurry up with that gift!!”

I believe the disciples were all united, all agreeing in a prayer asking Jesus to quickly baptize them with the Holy Spirit.

What’s my point with all this?

Read these words from Jesus: Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven (Matthew 18:19).

God answered the disciples’ prayer once they all became united, once they all started praying in agreement, once they all started praying the same prayer. Coincidence? Maybe. But I don’t think so. Consider one of the last things Jesus prayed before his crucifixion: “…that they [Christians] may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me” (John 17:23).

The book of Acts is the story of Christians united in purpose who go (technically, they’re sent) throughout the ancient world proclaiming God sent Jesus. Acts is the answer made visible to Jesus’ prayer in John 17:23. As soon as Jesus’ disciples became united, God sent the Holy Spirit [“When the day of Pentecost came, they were all together in one place.” Acts 2:1] and 3000 people were saved after hearing God sent Jesus to the world.

Of course, God answers individuals’ secret prayers all the time. I’ve prayed things no one but God heard, and he answered them. But it’s possible God chooses to answer some prayers only after his followers have gathered together in corporate prayer when they pray the same prayers.

The fifth possible reason you’re not hearing God:

5. You don’t unite with other Christians in prayer.

Sure, you pray on your own. But you haven’t attended a church prayer meeting in years (if ever). You avoid praying with other Christians like the plague. You don’t have any “accords” in your prayer life. You’re fine gathering with other Christians to hear a sermon, sing  songs, have a church workday, or a potluck. But meet with other Christians to pray? For more than a few minutes?! No thank you.

Coincidentally [or not], you also feel like you don’t hear God. You wish he would tell you what to do about this uncertain situation or that crumbling relationship, but you don’t hear him sharing advice about any of it. And you don’t feel like he hears you, either. You’ve prayed that same prayer for 1 year…5 years…30 years, but it’s like God doesn’t hear you. At least, he’s not answering you. He’s not showing up.

In a message on prayer, Charles Spurgeon, a British pastor in the 19th century, once asked “How could we look for a Pentecost if we never met with one accord, in one place, to wait upon the Lord?”

Maybe God has heard you all along but you’ve ignored his command to meet with other Christians “with one accord, in one place, and wait upon the Lord.” You want God to give you a Pentecost. You want God to show up. But God first wants you to wait and gather with believers in prayer.

If you don’t feel like you hear God (or that he doesn’t hear you) and you rarely spend serious times with other Christians in prayer, try these suggestions:

  • Attend your church’s next prayer meeting.
  • Invite your family to pray together.
  • Share needs with your Christian friends and take time praying for each other. Agree in prayer about each other’s needs.
  • Wait in prayer – when possible, spend extended periods of time (30 minutes, 1 hour, 2 hours) in prayer with other Christians.

8 Possible Reasons You’re Not Hearing God- Newlyweds, Reason #4

Newlyweds

When you really love someone, you want to learn their preferences, their favorite color, favorite food, their dreams for the future. You want to do things for them…make them food, buy them a gift, help them when they’re in need, encourage them, etc.  You want to spend time with them and talk to them. 

The fourth possible reason you’re not hearing God:

4. You don’t spend enough time individually talking to Jesus.

*I’ll discuss corporate prayer time (praying in groups) in the next post.

I found 25 examples in the Gospels where Jesus prayed. I found at least two times when Jesus prayed all night, Luke 6:12-13 and Matthew 14:22-25.  He went alone in the desert to pray and fast 40 daysLuke 5:16 says he was well-known for withdrawing by himself to pray. God gave Peter a special vision when he went up on a roof to pray. How much do you pray on your own?

For thousands of years, God’s people have linked prayer and Bible reading. They’re really two sides of the same coin. That’s why today’s thoughts are similar to my previous post. God speaks when you read your Bible and pray. If you don’t hear God as much as you would like, commit to spend more time talking and listening to Jesus.

For those who just made that commitment, did it feel like a New Year’s resolution to exercise more?  When I read about Jesus’ prayer life, I don’t get the idea he had to will himself to pray, like he was following some diet plan.

When you have a healthy and love-filled relationship with someone, such “commitments” to spend more time together aren’t usually necessary. The New Testament says the Church is the bride and Jesus is the groom. Picture a newlywed couple. Ask yourself if they would say, “we need to spend more time together.” Doubtful. They’re probably spending TONS of time together. And they probably LOVE every minute of it.

If you just committed to pray more (and don’t get me wrong, that’s a good commitment), ask Jesus what’s going on in your relationship with him. Ask Jesus why you haven’t wanted to spend more time talking to Jesus. In Revelation, the last book in the Bible, Jesus spoke these words to a church in Ephesus, a city in ancient Greece: “You have forsaken the love you had at first (Revelation 2:4).” Has your love for Jesus faded over time?

Ask Jesus if your weak prayer life is a symptom of some deeper dysfunction in your relationship with him. Maybe you’ve never understood how much God loves you. Maybe you think you annoy God with your prayers. Maybe you don’t think you’re worthy talking to God. Maybe you still feel shame from past sins because you don’t understand Jesus’ offer of forgiveness. Maybe a poor relationship with your earthly father tainted the relationship with your Heavenly Father. Ask Jesus to heal these issues in your heart and increase your desire for prayer. Ask Jesus to bring you good counselors, pastors, mentors, books, sermons, etc. to help you pray and process your struggles. Don’t fight the struggle alone.

I believe Jesus will gladly teach you the reasons behind your weak prayer life. When he does, I think you will find yourself praying more and hearing Jesus more clearly. Of course, one way Jesus could teach you is through prayer. So, even when you don’t feel like it, keep praying!

Note: I wrote these posts to help the people I serve at my local church. We’ve started a two month journey of fasting and praying 4 prayers. But feel free to read along even if you’re not part of our church. I pray you find my words helpful.

8 Possible Reasons You’re Not Hearing God- Unopened love letters

Bible open

Depending on the translation, an English Bible has between 700,000 and 800,000+ words in it. [The internet gave me that stat, so it must be true!] The Bible is filled with instructions, stories of broken people God loves, examples of how God spoke to people in the past, and teachings on how Jesus came so we could be in right relationship with God.

Did you know the Bible mentions 3,237 people by name? Thanks again, Internet.  He spoke to many of those people. God ensured the words he spoke to people thousands of years ago would be recorded in the Bible. Why? Because those words were also meant for you and me to hear.

The third possible reason you’re not hearing God:

3. You’re not reading and studying your Bible.

Praying about something and feel like you haven’t heard God answer? Read how God responded to those 3,237 people in the Bible. It’s possible God’s answer hasn’t changed since someone faced your situation 3,500 years ago.

Suppose your spouse had to travel overseas for work. He or she sends you thousands of love letters, cards, emails, and texts but you don’t read a single one. Would it make sense to complain you haven’t heard from your spouse in a long time?

Suppose you’ve been given instructions on how to complete a project at work, but you don’t bother reading them. Would it make sense to complain you weren’t properly trained for your job?

Suppose you’re participating in a play. You’ve been given the script to read, understand, and learn your part. But you never bother opening the script. Would it make sense to complain you don’t know what you’re supposed to do on stage or what you’re supposed to say?

But I don’t understand what I’m reading!

This is a real issue for a lot of people. Maybe most people. They’ve given up reading the Bible because they just don’t understand what they’re reading. If that’s you, I hope you keep reading this blog. I’ll share several tips and encouraging thoughts on what to do when you feel discouraged and don’t understand the Bible. But for today, I’d like to share tips that will help you keep reading your Bible.

Tips to help you keep reading your Bible:

1- Follow a reading plan. 

Google will give you more Bible reading plans than you could imagine. Here’s links to various reading plans on biblestudytools.com and biblegateway.com.

2- Join or start a Bible study group.

A Bible study group can hold you accountable to regularly study the Bible. God may speak through other people in your group, helping you understand Bible passages you didn’t understand in your private reading. If you’re going through a Bible study book, the author may have many years experience of Bible study. Reading someone else’s Bible study insights is often helpful.

And you don’t need to know anything about the Bible to start your own Bible reading group. Just tell your friends you’d like to start a book club that uses the Bible as its main book. Pick the same book of the Bible to read and gather each week to discuss your thoughts.

3- Listen to the Bible.

The most popular free Bible apps for your smartphone have audio Bibles you can hear from within the app. You can find even more audio Bible versions online. Listen while you read along. Or listen while you’re walking or driving to work. I own two dramatized audio Bibles, The Word of Promise (New King James Version) and the NIV Dramatized Audio Bible. The music, sound effects, and multiple voices help me pay attention and keep track of what’s happening in the story.

4- Start with something easy.

If you start with Genesis and try to read your way through the Bible, you’ll likely burn out by the book of Numbers (or be grossed out by the book of Judges). If you’re new to regular Bible reading, start with something that’s easy. Read through the four Gospels and the book of Acts. Those five Biblical books are all written in ways where it’s easy to follow the plot. As a Christ-follower, you can’t go wrong becoming very familiar with the 4 books detailing the life of Christ. The book of Proverbs is also a great starting point. Read a chapter a day in Proverbs as you’re reading other parts of the Bible.

5- Watch the Bible

You can watch Bible movies that are word-for-word scripts from the gospels of Matthew (NIV translation), John (Good News Bible translation), Luke (King James Version) and the book of Acts (NIV translation). The popular TV mini-series The Bible and A.D. The Bible Continues are excellent for helping you visualize and understand important Bible stories.

 

Start reading! Keep reading! God ensured the Bible would be passed on through millennia because he wants to speak to you and me. Read your Bible daily to hear his voice.

If you don’t regularly read the Bible, experiment with my 5 tips above. See which ones are most helpful to you. It’s hard to do something you don’t want to do. And it’s hard to continue doing something when you don’t see any benefit in doing it. So I’ve saved my best advice for last: pray God gives you the desire to read the Bible and gives you the wisdom to understand what you read. 

8 Possible Reasons You’re Not Hearing God- Hiding God’s Face, Reason #2

Stop on road

Note: I wrote these posts to help the people I serve at my local church. We’ve started a two month journey of fasting and praying 4 prayers. But feel free to read along even if you’re not part of our church. I pray you find my words helpful.

The second possible reason you’re not hearing God:

2.  You’re walking in repeated patterns of sin.

The book of James in the New Testament says “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (James 5:16). If everyone’s prayers are equally powerful and effective, why bother singling out “the prayer of a righteous person?” I could be wrong, but I think James is saying a righteous person’s prayers are more effective than an unrighteous person’s. When unrighteous people pray, James says they might just hear…crickets. No answer. No power. No effect.

A preacher named Isaiah who lived hundreds of years before Jesus said these words: “But your iniquities [a fancy word for “sins”] have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear” (Isaiah 59:2). Uh oh. If that’s true, things aren’t looking good for me. Could God essentially turn his back on me when I pray and give me the silent treatment because of my sins?

But…

James 5:16 has another sentence before the one about righteous people. Let me show you the whole verse:

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

You see what James did there? He clued us in on how he’s using the word “righteous.” While you and I were counting up our list of sins, trying to see if God put us on the good list or the naughty list, James already gave us the answer.

“Righteous” people are followers of Jesus who confess their sins to each other.

Why do I think that? Because James assumes the Christians in this church who confess their sins and pray for each other will be healed. In other words, their prayers will be powerful and effective.

Does Jesus want you to stop sinning? Of course! But your absence of sin doesn’t make you righteous. Righteousness is a gift you receive, not a characteristic you seek. A man named Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament, said “righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe (Romans 3:22). Every time Christians confess their sins to each other and pray for each other is an opportunity to reaffirm the belief that only Jesus can heal their sinfulness.

Failure to confess your sins reveals the parts of your life you don’t think Jesus needs to save; you’re your own God in those areas.

If you’re giving God the silent treatment by not regularly confessing your sins to Jesus and other believers, don’t be surprised when God gives you the silent treatment, too.

If you’ve continually prayed about something but feel God is silent, ask Jesus if you’re walking in repeated patterns of sin. If he says “No,” ask Jesus to help you wait patiently until he answers your prayer.

But if Jesus reveals patterns of sin in your life, it’s time to repent. Confess to God how you have continually ignored him. Repent of your sin. Then confess your sins to other believers.  Seek help as you resist those sinful patterns, not because you’re striving for “righteousness” but because you want to honor the Jesus who forgave all your sins.